Monday, December 12, 2011


My Positive Thinking Class stresses an Attitude of Gratitude.

Along those lines, I would like to state once and for all that it bothers me when people don't send-out Thank You notes.

I know we don't give gifts in order to get Thank You notes...but if I'm going to your parties and showers and spending money and time on your happy occasion, it would be really REALLY nice to know you spent three minutes writing me a card.

I don't hold it against them forever or dwell on it, but it does bother me.

Last week, I gave a young man I volunteer with a handmade sweater for his baby. (Just in case nobody's grandma made one for him.)  Four days later, I got the sweetest Thank You note from his very sweet wife. (I have only met her once.) This card was extremely personal and genuine and kind.

And with this single card, this new young mother has negated every eyeroll I have ever had over not getting a Thank You note in response to other gifts.

Instead of getting annoyed when I DON'T get Thank You notes, I'm just going to feel extremely appreciative when I DO get a nice one like this card.

In fact, I'll go so far as to say that getting a really nice Thank You note is better than getting a really nice gift.

This baby is lucky to have such a sweet, thoughtful mom.

Diana Rissetto


Net said...

Great attitude! And it sounds like you may have found a kindred spirit in the wife, and should get to know her better. See, you're attracting positive people! :)

I had a friend who went to Hawaii for her honeymoon. She wrote all her thank yous while traveling, and mailed them from the airport when she landed in Hawaii. Talk about organized, and able to put the sentiments she felt down while she was still feeling them! Her thank you just stuck with me because of the sincerity of it and her desire to thank everyone so quickly.

Lisa said...

I have at least 2 entire sets of thank-you notes that have never been sent... it's not that i'm not thankful, I'm just very forgetful. I guess it's ADHD + a busy life, but I do warn people at events like my wedding shower. I made a little speech and said how *very* thankful I was that everyone thought about us and came to the shower and brought gifts, and that I intend to send out thank-you notes, but I do not have a good history of getting them in the mail, so please know how thankful we are for you and your gifts. Does that make it any better? I know I love getting thank-you notes, though, so it's one of my new life goals (I make them often, and sometimes successfully reach them) to be not just a writer of thank-you notes, but a sender!

Just know that, especially in the case of a baby shower, it's not that they aren't thankful. If they had the baby before or soon after the shower, they may have just had life take over. Plus, not everyone was taught to send them (I never learned until I was an adult and found out other people in my family were offended that even as a child, I hadn't sent notes! My mom wasn't a note-sender, she was a very young mom still trying to figure out life, so that's something I was never taught).

I do love that personal thank-you note though, and I have one similar to your story that I have kept for almost a year now because it was so special. That note inspires me to write heart-felt notes at my next event (which should have been audrey's birthday party... dang it) to make people feel that way too.

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