Wednesday, December 31, 2008

It's like my own version of the movie BEACHES...

I guess friendships are hard to define when you're nine-years old. You don't really have problems to share, or anything too deep to talk about. You probably can't even talk about your favorite books or movies. Friendship back then was sitting at the same lunch table and, if you're really lucky, living near each other so you can ride the school bus together.

My best friend up to the third grade lived in Battery Park, and I lived near the South Street Seaport...so, we weren't on the same school bus...but we somehow did manage to form a best friendship (whatever that is in the third grade!)

She moved to California at the end of the third grade. (I still remember...it was the day of our spring recital. We were practicing on stage, and she was just watching us.

I moved myself that summer, and for a long time, we wrote letters back-and-forth.

(I honestly miss writing letters.)

We sadly stopped after a while, and it's been a good ten years since we corresponded.

However, thanks to social networking sites, I tracked-down my first best friend...just before she was planning her first trip to New York City since she left.

It made me laugh to think that now we're exchanging text messages...when we used to write each other actual letters, with stamps and all.

My coworkers were confused when I told them I was taking a break yesterday because my best friend from the third grade was waiting for me outside.

"Is this a third grade reuniont?"
"So you haven't seen her since?"

Over cups of coffee instead of cartons of chocolate milk, we caught-up...and seventeen years is a lot to catch-up on.

And when we were walking together, I noticed that we were almost the same exact height...whenever we had to line-up for size order in class, we were always next to each other...that hasn't changed!

I have a very strong feeling that had we remained in the same state all these years, we would have remained the best of friends.

Diana Rissetto

And the official song of 2009 will be...

..."Hold On" by Wilson Phillips.

(Yes, I know, that song came out in 1990.)

(Sidenote...I used to love this movie Chynna Phillips was in which was always aired on The Disney Channel. It was called Goodbye, Miss Fourth of July and was about this Greek girl who comes to America, faces prejudices, dies and is posthumously named the town's Miss Fourth of July. Sadly, this movie is not available on DVD, since I'm pretty sure I'm the only one who has ever seen it.)

I remember shortly after I began working at Barnes and Noble, I said something about the "Self-Help Section" to Danny, a young fellow who started working there the same week I did and would go on to become one of my closest Barnes and Noble comrades.

Danny paused and said, "This SONG is the Self-Help Section."

"Hold On" was playing.

Six months after that day, the song came on just as Danny and I were talking in the Humor Section.

Me: Remember when this song came on, and you said, "This SONG is the Self-Help section?"

Danny: I do remember that!

Me: Wow, that was six months ago!

Danny: Six months. That's, like, 1/40th of our lives...

(I know that sounds impressive, but but was easy to do that math...we were about 20 years old.)

That song always brings back memories of my early days at the bookstore...but I never listened to the words before until it came on the radio last night.

I realized I like the lyrics of this song a lot, and might just have to listen to it when times get tough. I tend to get upset too easily, and worry too much about things I can't change.

You just have to keep going-on...because you never know when something wonderful is going to happen.

"Hold On"

I know this pain
Why do lock yourself up in these chains?
No one can change your life except for you
Don't ever let anyone step all over you
Just open your heart and your mind
Is it really fair to feel this way inside?

[Chorus:]
Some day somebody's gonna make you want to
Turn around and say goodbye
Until then baby are you going to let them
Hold you down and make you cry
Don't you know?
Don't you know things can change
Things'll go your way
If you hold on for one more day
Can you hold on for one more day
Things'll go your way
Hold on for one more day

You could sustain
Or are you comfortable with the pain?
You've got no one to blame for your unhappiness
You got yourself into your own mess
Lettin' your worries pass you by
Don't you think it's worth your time
To change your mind?

[Chorus]

I know that there is pain
But you hold on for one more day and
Break free the chains
Yeah I know that there is pain
But you hold on for one more day and you
Break free, break from the chains

Some day somebody's gonna make you want to
Turn around and say goodbye
Until then baby are you going to let them
Hold you down and make you cry
Don't you know?
Don't you know things can change
Things'll go your way
If you hold on for one more day yeah
If you hold on

Don't you know things can change
Things'll go your way
If you hold on for one more day,
If you hold on
Can you hold on
Hold on baby
Won't you tell me now
Hold on for one more day 'Cause
It's gonna go your way

Don't you know things can change
Things'll go your way
If you hold on for one more day
Can't you change it this time

Make up your mind
Hold on
Hold on









Diana Rissetto