Now, many people who know me probably know of my slightly prudish and old-fashioned values. (I should have been born in 1925.) They probably think that when I say that I get into arguments about Angelina Jolie that it means I am saying things like: "That shameless hushy!" (an expression I am quite fond of...sometimes it's just the perfect description for somebody.)
"That Jennifer Aniston is such a nice girl and that Jolie floozie breezes in and ruins everything for her!"
In fact, when I get into arguments about Angelina Jolie, I take her side.
I don't think I have ever seen a single one of her movies...(wait, actually, I did...I had to write a paper on her movie Taking Lives when I was in college. Don't ask. Yes, I guess you can say my school was a bit of a soupy one.) I am not exactly a fan of her work (as I have never seen much of it, but I tend to miss a lot of movies), but I am a fan of her humanitarian work.
I think I started defending Angelina Jolie when I was watching TV with a friend and we first heard that she had adopted her second child, a little girl from Ethiopia. My immediate reaction was, "That is wonderful! Good for her!!!" My friend rolled her eyes and said, "It's not fair...because she's so rich and famous, she probably got the kid really easily, but other people have to wait years for a baby." I said, "But she's adopting a child from Africa...healthy white infants are in high demand, children in Africa aren't." My friend replied, "I bet she was put higher on the waiting list, though." This was when I wanted to pretty much shake my friend. "THERE IS NO WAITING LIST TO ADOPT ETHIOPIAN AIDS ORPHANS!!!!!!" Sure, Angelina has plenty of money to just fly to Africa whenever she wants, which certainly puts her at an advantage...but do you honestly think people are going crazy trying to adopt Ethiopian AIDS orphans???
I have found that many people share similar views of Angelina, claiming that she SHOULD be adopting American children in need because we have enough of them here. (For those who say that...I would love to know just how many American children THEY have adopted themselves.) A child is a child is a child. Does it matter what country it comes from? In the end, a child who didn't have a home or a family before now has one. That really should be all that matters. Anybody who sees the situation otherwise has some serious issues.
Also, do we judge people who go to extremes in order to have their own biological children? If you are going to judge Angelina for not adopting American, let's judge the couples who transport embryos and buy eggs and do whatever else so they can have their "own" child. (Sidenote: I am not judging these people.)
Others claim that Angelina is having nannies raise her children. (Honestly? Does it really matter? Yes, the child is MUCH BETTER OFF in an orphanage sleeping in a crib with five other babies and not getting any attention than it would be with an attentive nanny.)
Madonna met similar criticism when she adopted a baby from Africa. When she appeared on Oprah, Oprah asked her if she had any final words for the viewers, and Madonna said that she challenged ANYBODY to go over to Africa and see how many starving and sick children there were and NOT want to "rescue" one. I agree with her. I would most likely come home with ten. In fact, when I read The Kite Runner , I was ready to go to the Middle East and bring home a bunch of babies.
And then there are those who feel that Angelina and Madonna aren't doing any good at all...they are only rescuing a few children, when there are millions. This reminds me of a poster that my high school psychologist had hanging in her office. (I used to have to go see her reguarily when my father died. I knew that office well.)
It is such times that I am reminded of The Starfish Story - A man was throwing starfish stranded on the beach to the water. Another person who saw the man doing this remarked the futility of this task as there must be millions of starfish stranded on shore. As the man picked up another starfish and threw it back to the ocean, he said "Well, it made a difference to that one."
And, of course, of this quote from the Tablet, now forever attached to Oskar Schindler:
He Who Saves One Life, Saves the World Entire.